According to Chapman and Campbell, there are five basic "languages" of love: physical touch, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation.
Different people "speak" different languages, and different people "hear" different languages.
One person may natively speak acts of service, and hear physical touch, while another speaks and hears quality time.
If you don't speak the language of love which is heard by the one you
love, it is your responsibility to learn how to speak that language. It
is a cop-out to say, "Well I'm just not good at touching people, but I
really do love you. Can't you see that by the gifts I bring you?"